Why I’m Not Stressed About My Birthday

August 22, 2014 by


Today isn’t just my birthday, but it’s the last year I get to spend in my 30’s. Many people have already asked me if I am stressed about turning the big 4-0 next year.

The simple answer is no. I’m not. I’ve learned this lesson the hard way.

My birthday has been a very difficult time for me for the past 12 years. You see, I had this wonderful and beautiful aunt who was a very important person in my life. She was one of my very best friends and someone I spoke with on a daily basis.

Right after we celebrated her 40th, she was diagnosed with cancer. She fought hard for more than 2 years, but she didn’t live to see her 43rd birthday.

Her birthday was 2 days before mine. Whether we had a family pool party in her backyard or went to see an Angel’s game, we celebrated together.

As you can imagine, celebrating my birthday without her is tough for me.

However, this experience has changed my perspective on birthdays. You see, most people don’t want to be reminded that they are getting older. Yet, my aunt, her children, and our family, would give anything for her to still be here with us celebrating birthdays and growing older.

So rather than cringe at the thought of our age, let us remember:

“This is the day the LORD has made;

We will rejoice and be glad in it.” ~Psalm 118:24

I know that growing older offers its pains and its challenges. In no way do I mean to undermine what many people go through as they age. I would just like to challenge us to see things from a different perspective.

As always, when I need a change of perspective, I go to God’s Word.

“My times are in Your hands.” ~Psalm 31:15

“…all the days ordained for me were written in Your book before one of them came to be” ~Psalm 139:16 (NIV)

“…whereas you do not know what will happen tomorrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapor that appears for a little time and then vanishes away”                ~James 4:14

My challenge to you is this; the next birthday you celebrate, cherish it. Celebrate your life even if it didn’t turn out the way you had hoped. Celebrate YOU, even though you aren’t perfect. You were created by a God who loves you and desires to have a relationship with you. That alone, is reason to celebrate, not stress.

Don’t stop counting the birthdays and don’t stop treasuring the days of your life. They are a gift from God.

No matter when your birthday is… Happy Birthday! 

What do you think? Do you dread your impending birthday and wish to forget it, or do you celebrate it with joy?

*All Scripture verses are from the New King James Version unless otherwise noted.

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22 Responses to Why I’m Not Stressed About My Birthday

  1. Rick

    Happy birthday Heather! I am absolutely assured that it will be because of your biblically eternal perspective on it. May the days God ordered for you be many with us here, but countless in the hereafter. Psalms 118:24

  2. bonniesteinborn

    Happy – BLESSED CHERISHED 39th birthday my dear Heather:) Since I am only 33 years ahead of you – I have learned a bit about birthday celebrations —
    – I celebrated my birthday this month by inviting the entire neighborhood for a birthday bash — for ALL those who had summer birthdays — You would have been honored too:)
    Praying you will always see your birthday as a blessing from our faithful God and something to be cherished — Praise the Lord for each golden moment God has gifted you — with both family and friends —

  3. Carol

    Happy birthday to you will see you on Sunday ) enjoy your special day. At least The 3 you can still climb a tree. Sometimes I think I can ; 0

  4. Barbie

    I’m so sorry I missed your birthday Heather! Beautiful thoughts on aging with grace. I will be celebrated #50 in a couple of short years.

    • Heather

      I’m so happy to hear that, Jennifer! It always makes me a little sad when I hear people lament that which should be celebrated. Happy Birthday, my friend! xo

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