What If It’s Not A Happy Father’s Day?

June 14, 2014 by

A Father's Love

I feel incredibly blessed on Father’s Day more than most.

Not only is the father of my children my very best friend, but he is a wonderful, loving, and dedicated father to our two children.

Another one of my very best friends is my own father. I appreciate his presence in my life more than words can express.

I have also been blessed with a kind, generous, and loving father-in-law.

And if that weren’t enough, I have a Father in Heaven who loves me more than I can possibly imagine. We all do.

On this day, I have so much to be thankful for and to celebrate, but I can’t help but think about those who do not feel the same way.

You see, for some, this day conjures up feelings of anger, pain, hurt, resentment, loss, frustration, and a host of other feelings.

While we spend the day celebrating the wonderful fathers in our lives, others wish this day simply didn’t exist.

Some have lost their fathers. Some never had fathers.

Others wish they never had the father they did. Some are mourning the loss of a child while others will never know what it is like to be a father.

Everyone has a different story to tell, and this day means different things to each of us.

There is one thing we all have in common, however.

We have a Father God who created us and then sent His One and Only Son to die so that we could live forever with Him.

I have heard it said that those who have had absent fathers or strained or abusive relationships with their earthly fathers have trouble relating to and trusting in a Heavenly Father. If you find yourself in this position, I truly feel for you.

Consider, though, the difference. Earthly fathers are simple sinners. They range a broad spectrum from cruel and abusive to giving all they have to their children, but all still fall short. (Romans 3:23).

On the other hand, God is love. (1 John 4:8)

No matter how you feel about Father’s Day, let us consider some of the truths about our Heavenly Father:

“…God is love.” ~1 John 4:8 – No earthly love can be compared to the love our Heavenly Father bestows upon us.

God is good. “You, Lord, are forgiving and good, abounding in love to all who call to you.” ~Psalm 86:5 – We only need to cry out to God to receive His goodness towards us.

God is gracious. “Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.”  ~Hebrews 4:16 – No matter who we are, or what we have done, we should never be afraid to come to God in our time of need. We will surely find His mercy and grace when we do.

God is faithful. “For great is his love toward us, and the faithfulness of the Lord endures forever.” ~Psalm 117:2 – Even the greatest fathers on earth will fail us at one point or another, but God never will.

God is for us. “If God is for us, who shall be against us?” ~Romans 8:31 – Even if your earthly father hasn’t been there for you, you have a Heavenly Father who is!

God will never leave or forsake you. “…God has said, never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” ~Hebrews 13:5 – The same is not always true of earthly fathers, but this is a promise from the Creator God – the God of the universe!

God is patient. “…He is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.” ~2 Peter 3:9 – It is my prayer that you have eternal life in Christ. (John 3:16). If you do not know Him as your personal Lord and Savior, would you consider opening your heart to Him today? He is waiting for you.

God cannot lie. “...it is impossible for God to lie…” ~Hebrews 6:18 – Nothing breaks our trust in people quite like being lied to. Fortunately, our Heavenly Father cannot lie. It is against His nature. Therefore, you can trust in His promises. They are truth. (John 14:6)

God doesn’t change. “Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever.” ~Hebrews 13:8 – Our feelings can get hurt when people make promises they don’t keep or change their minds about how they feel about us, but God never will.

I don’t know where you are in your relationships with your earthy father and your Heavenly Father today. I pray that both are rich, deep, and truly blessed. If, however, you are hurting because one, or both, of these relationships are lacking, it is my heartfelt prayer that you would call out to your Heavenly Father. Let Him take you into His arms and comfort you with His peace.

“Yet to all who did receive Him, to those who believed in His name, He gave the right to become children of God.” ~John 1:12

For those of you who are truly hurting today, I in no way mean to undermine your pain. I just know that God can fill any void we find in this life. It is my prayer that you would allow Him to do just that.

“You will seek Me and find Me when you search for Me with all your heart.” ~Jeremiah 29:13 (NKJV)

*All Scripture verses are from the New International Version, unless otherwise noted.

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6 Responses to What If It’s Not A Happy Father’s Day?

  1. Joyce

    After pastoring for thirty five years here in the USA and for many years in the former Soviet Union we have found that whether American or Russian, those who had hard experience with a father found it very hard to trust our Heavenly Father. Especially the Russian men seemed to not understand that they had to work to break the tendency to abuse the wife and children just like their natural earthly father had done. And many dear wives and children suffered with Christian husbands who abused them and yet confessed Christ.

    • Heather

      I am so incredibly thankful that though earthly fathers often cause us pain, our Heavenly Father is always faithful. It is my heartfelt prayer that many would learn to break the chains of the past and come to Him today. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us, Joyce. Blessings to you.

  2. Rick

    Very thoughtful post Heather, and to those who may struggle with father’s day, encouraging. Relationships, even the closest ones, are challenging at times because of our fallen nature. That is why it is so necessary for us to see our Heavenly father for who he is by spending time searching his word and seeing his perfect character(thanks for searching these out for us Heather!). It should serve to not discourage us for how we fail, but that perfection really does exist and that we will be a part of that perfection someday. Proverbs 20:7 states that the righteous man leads a blameless life and blessed are his children after him. Blameless does not imply perfection, but integrity. That constant striving to align his life with God’s will. My prayer for all father’s out there would be to experience this proverb on both ends. Now, read that scripture again as if it were Jesus speaking of himself to us? We are truly blessed are we not?

    • Heather

      “That is why it is so necessary for us to see our Heavenly father for who he is by spending time searching his word and seeing his perfect character” – this is the key to all of it, isn’t it? I am praying that same prayer with you, and yes, we are amazingly and abundantly blessed! Thank you for your thoughts on the subject. Happy Father’s Day, Daddy! I love you!

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