The Hardest Prayer To Pray

January 3, 2015 by


Dear Heavenly Father, I pray that You would get the attention of (insert name/ names here) in whatever way is necessary. I love this person and wish them no harm. However, sometimes we need to come to the end of ourselves before we can come to You. Show them that You alone are God. Allow them to experience whatever it is that they need to experience that will make them realize that without You, nothing is possible. That life is empty and meaningless without the joy of the Lord. That our efforts are futile and in vain when they aren’t done in Your strength and power. Allow them just enough discomfort that they realize the need to release their grip on all things and place them into Your loving hands. Help them to realize that there is no salvation or provision aside from what You give. Bring on the pain if that is what is necessary to save their very lives. And, perhaps most importantly, allow me to be a light that shines over the darkness of their life so that they would want what I have in You, for their good and for Your glory. In the matchless name of Jesus Christ we pray. Amen.

Have you ever prayed a prayer like this for someone you love dearly?

If you have, you have probably felt as guilty as I just did praying that for several people that I love and for some I hardly know.

In a way, I feel as though I am praying for harm to come upon another person. Of course, in my heart, I know that this is the farthest thing from the truth, but it is still hard to bring these words before my heavenly Father.

Because I know He answers prayers.

Because I know that it is His will for each and every one of us to come to a saving knowledge of Him.

I would hate to hear of the demise of someone that I have prayed for like this wondering if they are suffering because I asked God to bring that upon them.

And yet I know that nothing happens outside of the will of God. He knows when each sparrow falls from the sky.

This is the hardest prayer to pray.

It’s one thing to pray to God asking Him to bring me to the end of myself because I know that is what I need to be closer to Him.

But to pray it for another?

That’s never easy.

And yet I would want someone to pray this for me.

Not because I enjoy trials, temptations, storms, or pain, but because God is good. Everything good that we need is found in Him and in Him alone.

It is hard to kick against the goads.

So, in faith, I bring these words to my heavenly Father because He knows my heart for those who desire to be a god rather than to serve the One True Living God.

He knows what they need to bring them to their knees in order that they would lay down their pride and surrender it to Him.

We all need that, really.

What do you think? Have you prayed like this for those that you love? Do you find it to be the hardest prayer to pray?

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42 Responses to The Hardest Prayer To Pray

  1. thebetterbaker11

    WOWOWOW! Yes..very difficult to pray a prayer like this. I have experienced God’s working in great ways because of prayers like this..and when the ‘tragedy’ happens..I
    can rest..knowing God is The Blessed Controller of all things. Thanks for sharing!!XO

    • Heather

      Thank you, Marsha, for the reminder that even in the hard things, we can rest in Him. He is the blessed controller of all things – may we praise and glorify His name forever and ever! xo

  2. Carl Sande

    Yes Heather, It could be the most difficult prayer ever. It brings to mind Abraham being strong enough, obedient enough and faithful enough to place his son on the altar. I am such a weakling, I don’t know if I could do that.We can never know for sure how we will respond though, until God asks it of us.

    Thank you for taking on the hard subjects in your blog.


    • Heather

      Yes, Carl, may we all have the faith of Abraham to be obedient to all that God asks of us, knowing that His reward is greater than we can imagine. Thank you for reading and for taking the time to share your thoughts. Blessings to you and yours.

  3. Carol

    I still have several that I pray, God Will wake up, hear his still small voice and answer with a positive, Yes. I try not to let my hopes dim over the years. Thank you for your encouragement.

    • Heather

      Thank you, Carol, for the excellent reminder that we need to persist in our prayers even when we weary of praying the same ones. Blessings to you.

    • Heather

      I’m so glad you brought up this point, Ifeoma, because it demonstrates the truth that we are all at a different place in our walk. It’s not a matter of one of us being further along in our walk, but just that we are walking different paths at different times in our lives.

      For me, personally, praying for loved ones who have hurt me isn’t as hard for me because I’ve had to do a lot of it. Praying this kind of prayer has brought me so much closer to my Savior because in praying for forgiveness for those who have hurt me deeply, I have gained a deeper understanding of how much Jesus has forgiven me. For each person who has caused me harm, it cannot even come close to the pain Jesus felt on the cross on my behalf.

      If this is a prayer that is difficult for you, maybe try picturing Jesus suffering on the cross in forgiveness for you. I know that it helped changed both my heart and my prayers in a big way. Blessings to you and yours.

  4. Rick

    I know i have thought about desiring God to “bring on the pain” so someone would wake up to their need of God’s salvation, but not sure I have lifted it up so boldly. Thank you Heather for that challenge. I know that in my own life, the pain I used to curse and try and avoid I now embrace as part of my journey that led to surrender. Not sure my pride would have been broken down any other way to recognize my spiritual poverty as Jesus spoke of so beautifully in his sermon on the mount teaching (Matt 5:3). I know of a name that both you and i have inserted in a very similar prayer throughout our walk and will continue as our faithful call. Love you and your blog!

    • Heather

      Thank you for sharing that with us, Daddy. I know that it takes a lot of love for our Lord to share our weaknesses with whoever might be reading on this world wide web. I can see from where a lot of my influences comes from, both in my life and in my writing. I continue to thank God for all that you are in my life. Let us commit that name in an even greater way this year. I know we weary, but let us face that challenge this year with more fervor, boldness, and perseverance. For the good of the one we love and the glory of the God who loves him so dearly. xo

  5. Barbie

    I pray a similar prayer over my unsaved family often. It is difficult to pray it, but I have to continually put them back in God’s hands. Have a blessed week!

    • Heather

      Thank you for the reminder, Barbie, that we are placing them in God’s hands. We can truly trust in His goodness. Blessings to you and yours. Know that I will be praying for your unsaved family members, too.

  6. Caleb

    I guess I would say that prayer is more scary than it is hard. Unfortunately I know from experience that sometimes it takes some pretty tragic events to get our attention. Nevertheless we must have the courage to pray these prayers sometime because if we don’t and God doesn’t get their attention, that is much worse.

    • Heather

      That’s an excellent point, Caleb. Thank you for reading and for sharing your thoughts with us. Wishing you and yours a blessed New Year!

  7. Lisa notes...

    That’s definitely a hard prayer to pray either for someone else or to have someone else pray for us. But if we really want the ultimate best for each other, we will pray for WHATEVER it takes to draw us to God. Thanks, Heather, for your courage.

    • Heather

      That is often a difficult part of praying this prayer, Kristia – the desire to continue when we weary. Please know that I will be praying for your person as I pray for mine. Thank you for your encouragement!

  8. tmpresser

    Yes, and it is so difficult, but thank you for your encouragement and inspiration. Thanks for sharing at Good Morning Mondays. Blessings

    • Heather

      Well, hi neighbor! 🙂

      I often imagine seeing those people in heaven one day. It helps me persevere in praying for them. Love you!

  9. Jennifer | The Deliberate Mom

    Wow! Yes… this is challenging prayer to say but we need to ask for God’s will and trust that whatever happens is ultimately His will. It’s challenging to relinquish our wants, our needs, our control but it’s so necessary. THIS is where we find joy… by being obedience and resting in the assurance that He has everything under control.

    Thanks for sharing (and for linking up to the #SHINEbloghop).

    Wishing you a lovely weekend.

    • Heather

      AMEN! Beautifully said, my friend. Thanks for taking the time to read and share your thoughts with us. Blessings to you and yours.

  10. Deb Wolf

    Yes, we’ve prayed prayers like this and you’re right they are so hard to pray. We always pray grace and mercy as well. Thanks for linking at CMB and sharing your heart and HIs truth.

    • Heather

      Thanks for your encouragement, Deb. Praying for mercy and grace is a wonderful addition. Thanks for sharing that, and for hosting.

  11. joanneviola

    I am so grateful our Father knows exactly how to work in each one of our lives & He does so in wisdom, in mercy, in grace & in compassion for He knows how frail we truly are. Blessings!

  12. queenmommyjen

    Thanks for sharing this Heather. I have never prayed this specific prayer, but I have spent much time on my knees with a loving and all knowing Heavenly Father asking for him to help those I love in the way that will most help them. That is the beauty of the whole plan, because he knows what we all need and if we follow and submit to his plan for our lives there is so much more beauty and goodness possible than we ever imagined.

    • Heather

      I couldn’t have said that any better, Jen! Thanks for reading and for sharing those encouraging thoughts. We serve an awesome God!

  13. Sharita

    Heather, I am not surprised that I knew what the hardest prayer would be before I clicked on your link– and I was right! This IS a super hard prayer to pray… not only for others, but also for ourselves. Takes a lot of courage to say “Lord, bring me closer to you, no matter what it takes.” But it truly is my heart prayer– because He is one who can be fully trusted.

    Thanks for this reminder as I head into a hard season where this prayer will surely be coming to fruition for our family. Thank you.

    • Heather

      Thanks, Sharita, for reading and for your encouragement. Know that I will be praying for your family knowing that God is with you in whatever you are facing. Many blessings!

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  15. hollythewoo

    I have prayed these same types of prayers, knowing that sometimes someone needs something drastic to happen to be their wake-up call, so I appreciate this post a lot! Thanks so much for linking up with us at Grace & Truth this week!

    • Heather

      Thanks for sharing that with me, Holly! This is the post I was most hesitant to publish due to the reactions I might recieve. Thanks for reading and for hosting. Blessings to you and yours.

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