Locks of Love…A Story of My Aunts & Uncles

November 16, 2014 by


Today marks the 10th Anniversary of one of the most heartbreaking days of my life. My beautiful Aunt Sharon ended her two and a half year battle with cancer and entered the arms of her Savior. She was such an integral part of my life that not a day goes by that I don’t miss her still.

About a year after her passing, I was missing her so much I could hardly stand it. I wanted with all my heart to do something. I knew I couldn’t bring her back, but I felt that I didn’t know how to move on.

Suddenly the idea came to me! I could donate my hair to Locks of Love in her memory. She didn’t lose her hair, but she lost a lot. She talked with me often about how she was affected by her disease and the treatments that attempted to cure it. No, donating my hair wouldn’t bring her back, but it made me feel like I was doing something. As I write this, it doesn’t seem to make much sense, logically. I just know that it made me feel better.

I grew my hair out, chopped it off, and sent it away to bless a stranger battling the same disease that took the life of my precious aunt. I told God that if He continued to bless me with healthy hair, I would continue to donate it.

Little did I know how soon my next opportunity would come about.

You see, I have this goof-ball uncle. He is quite the character! He’s the one always getting into trouble at family gatherings, making the kids laugh, and the moms roll their eyes. Some of my best childhood memories have him in them. About four years ago, I got the call. He was on his deathbed and I lived two states away. To make a very long story short, God performed a miracle and my uncle is still alive today. I cannot tell you what an privilege it was to donate my hair a second time, not in his memory, but in his honor.

As if two opportunities weren’t enough, I was given a third. This time, another precious, beautiful aunt had a bout with cancer. Thankfully, her case was much less severe. This kind, generous, and very loving aunt of mine would not only win her battle, but I could, again, donate my hair, not in her memory, but in her honor.

God is good!

It is my heartfelt prayer that I would never again have to donate my hair in memory of a beloved aunt or uncle (or anyone else, for that matter!) God has truly blessed me with the greatest aunts and uncles.  Each and every one of them hold a very special place in my heart and I pray that their lives would be full of blessings and health.

If you are grieving a loved one right now, I truly feel for you. I know that pain.

Find a way to volunteer your time, treasures, or talents in their memory. It won’t bring them back, but it may just help to ease the pain, even if only a little.

It is my prayer that you have settled the issue of life after death in your heart and that you know where you will be spending eternity. If you do not, I pray that you would seek Jesus and the truth of the cross.

“You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all of your heart.”                 ~Jeremiah 29:13 (NIV)

Dear Heavenly Father, You know our hearts, our thoughts, our pain, and every tear that we cry. In our grief, help us to remember that You are God and that You are always good. Help us to bless and encourage each other in the midst of our grief. I pray, Lord, that each of us will have settled the issue of where our eternity will be spent. Help us to seek You always, to praise You in the good times, and to trust You in the bad. Thank You that You have overcome death, and that we have nothing to fear. Thank You for the hope that we have it You, and help us to share that hope with others. In Your precious name we pray, Amen. 

“…knowing that while we are at home in the body we are absent from the Lord”                            ~2 Corinthians 5:6 (NASB)

What do you think? How have you learned to deal grief? 

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29 Responses to Locks of Love…A Story of My Aunts & Uncles

  1. cathie estabrook

    you are amazing, heather. you seem to always know when i need your insight. i have just learned about my sister girlfriend that has been with me for forty four years, has stage four lung and liver cancer. she just lost one of her grandsons and she has given up. we only have facebook to keep in touch and i was feeling guilty about not being able to go see her and then you come in and bring things into vision. thank you and God bless.

    • Heather

      Oh, Cathie! I am so sorry to hear about your precious friend. Please know that I will be praying for her and her family. I’m so thankful to God that this blessed you today. xo

  2. Victoria @ Creative Home Keeper

    In college I donated my hair to locks of love not because I knew of anyone specifically at the time who was battling cancer. Now fast forward ten years later I have also lost several family members to the disease, including my dad earlier this year. Sometimes it may not seem like much, but a simple donation of hair can really help touch someone. Thanks for sharing your story Heather.

    • Heather

      I am so sorry for your loss, Victoria. I know how difficult that can be. I’m so glad that you have your faith to help see you through your grief. Blessings to you and yours.

  3. Mommy Crusader

    What you have shared is so heartfelt and powerful. After losing all three of my remaining grandparents within 18 months of each other, I was reeling spiritually. So, I tried to honor their memories in simple ways. Planting a rose bush, playing more with my children, keeping a tidier house — my small memorials to their amazing lives. It does help to ease the longing to see them again. And I do know, now, that I will see them all again. Thank you for your inspired post and message!

    • Heather

      I am humbled by God’s love for each of us. It is my heartfelt desire to share that with the world. I am beyond words thankful that He healed you. Our lives are blessed because you are in them. I hope you know how loved you are, my cherished uncle. Blessings to you and yours.

  4. rachel

    cancer is a raw spot in my life. we just lost my second grandmother to the disease in twelve months. it’s an ache that I don’t know if I will ever shed. but this…this love is tangible and fits into the aching gap.

    so much love to you, brave one.

    • Heather

      Please know that I will keep you and your family in my prayers, Rachel. I do know your pain and I am deeply sorry for your loss. Keep the faith. God is always good and you are deeply loved, especially in this pain. Blessings to you and yours.

  5. Danise Jurado

    Hi Heather! Thank you for stopping by my blog! I am so sorry to hear about your loss… it doesn’t amtter how long its been when we lose someone we love so very much. Loss from death feels so final and creates a deep ache within the soul…the only way I have been able to over come loss in my life is through the devine love of Christ… He comforts and heals to the depths of the heart and leads us with purpose to find our new normal.
    Blessings to you

    • Heather

      That is so true, Danise. I can’t imagine going through pain like this without knowing the depths of love Jesus Christ has for each of us. Thank you so much for reading and for your kind words. Blessings to you and yours.

  6. itallmattersmom

    What an awesome way to give! I wanted to donate my hair years ago, but was told I couldn’t since it had been color-treated. That’s wonderful you’ve been able to do that three times, and now you’re able to share your testimony. When I’ve grieved, I’ve of course turned to God, but also to music.

  7. Kristia @ Family Balance Sheet

    My daughter is growing her hair to donate. I wish my hair could grow long to donate, but that is not to be. I’m sorry for your loss. We lost my father in law in September and my grandfather last summer. We were deeply saddened, but both men were believers and that gave us so much peace.

    • Heather

      I am sorry for your losses, Kristia, but so thankful that you can be at peace. Thanks for reading and for taking the time to share your thoughts.

  8. tmpresser

    What a wonderful opportunity you have had to help others and your relatives, you are such a blessings. Death is tough for us who are left behind, I have lost by my parents and a still born daughter but I am thankful that I will see them again. Thanks for sharing at Good Morning Mondays.

  9. Donna Reidland

    We have a friend fighting brain cancer right now and have lost a number of friends and loved ones. Thanks for a great post and reminder that we can reach out in our grief. Thanks for linking up at Mondays @ Soul Survival.

    • Heather

      I’m so sorry to hear that, Donna. I can certainly relate to what you and their families are going through. Thank you for reading. Please know that I will keep all of you in my prayers. Keep the faith! Blessings.

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